Are you a tall, gangling transgender woman with a moustache?

I’ve got news for you – you’re not alone.  In fact, you may even be among the majority.

When other transgender women tell me, “Oh!  You’re so pretty!  I will never ‘pass’ like you,” they are insulting not only themselves but other transgender women too.

Why is it that non-transgender or cisgender women can fight so hard to demolish stereotypes of “real” women, but some of us within the transgender community reverse their good work by reinforcing the very same stereotypes?

Why is it that some of us seek to dissociate ourselves from those who will not “pass” just so we can “pass better”?

Why are petite, docile Asian transgender dolls being held up as the models of beauty and perfection?  Are you in favour of Tiffany shows?

What do you and I have to prove?

Let’s enter a brave new world where being a transgender woman is all about self-acceptance and embracing our identities with love and compassion.

I am Leona Lo, a 35-year-old transgender woman with small breasts, yellowish teeth and more than my fair share of grey hair.

I am Leona Lo, a 35-year-old transgender woman with a beautiful smile, slim legs and big brown eyes.

I am all of these things.

Who are you?

See you at the Ah Kua Show.

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3 Responses to “Are you a tall, gangling transgender woman with a moustache?”

  1. Anaraa Says:

    Hey sister!

    “Why is it that non-transgender or cisgender women can fight so hard to demolish stereotypes of “real” women, but some of us within the transgender community reverse their good work by reinforcing the very same stereotypes?”

    Indeed. And along your train of thought, just the other day I was listening to a straight, cisgendered, non-queer in any way (maybe except for some of her queer friends) woman here in Mongolia talk about how she saw LGBT people and what she thought about us – all positive and lovely, which is fantastic. What cracked me up was that she said that she actually learnt how to be a real woman from gay guys. How’s that for stereotyping and misguided notions? Learning to be a woman from people who, by no fault of their own, are farthest from female experience!… If she said she learnt from transwomen, I would’ve understood, but from gay guys?!…

    • ahkuashow Says:

      Hi Sister

      Thank you for contributing your comment! Indeed, at the Asia Pacific Transgender Network, we constantly remind our affiliates and partners that transgender women are not men – so we should not be lumped together with MSMs (men having sex with men). Among HIV/AIDS reduction NGOs, there is now a recognition of the need to profile at-risk transgender women separately so they receive demographic-appropriate education.

      That said, in Asia, there’s still the misconception that gay men are actually men pretending to be women. Some cisgender women think it’s flattering to the gay community to “learn how to be women” from them, but it’s really an insult.

      That’s no way to “be” a woman. You are either one or are not. You could be tall, gangling with a moustache – you’re still a woman if you are. Go figure!

  2. Jerrold Colton Says:

    Well said.

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